If you make somebody else wrong, you can't see what is actually going on.
What if you could let go of the right and wrong and actually look at what is getting created and how to change it?
If addiction wasn't right and it wasn't wrong, you could ask a question, such as, "What energy can I be here to change this?" You are an infinite being; you can be an energy to change things.
For more on this different perspective to addiction and what you can do about it, watch the video.
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"Addiction is really about a coping skill that people have chosen, to vacate themselves because they didn't have the tools or information to handle what was going on in their lives" ~ Marilyn Bradford
Marilyn says that most people have some sort of addictive behavior to escape, because our primary addiction is to the judgment and wrongness of self. The secondary addiction is the substance or whatever the addictive behavior is.
As a Right Recovery for You Facilitator, Marilyn says we need to address the judgment first.
Watch this video for a different perspective on addiction and kids, or other family members.
Join myself and Chandana & Isha Bawa as we talk tools, tips and strategies for parents in this second wave of home schooling due to COVID19.
some gems from the video are:
- allow yourself some space
- be willing to change constantly
- stop judging yourself
Judgment is not real. Turning it up in the face of judgment brings you to true choice. If, however, it's sticking you, there is somewhere in your world where you are aligning and agreeing with it. Ask, "If this wasn't true, then what would it be?"
Watch this video for how to be with the energy of judgment instead of shrinking from it or avoiding it.
What have you defined relaxation as? When you start to undefine it, you are free to choose the space of ease with everything that you do.
Ask, "What is the energy of this 10 seconds?" and be present with it, for the mantra of Access Consciousness, all of life comes to me with ease and joy and glory, to actualize in everything you choose and do.
Where do you shut down, pull your energy out and avoid something or someone rather than just showing up and being present with it? How much of every day do you not show up, hide, cut off to the side or not be here?
When you let go of the definitions you have of that thing or person, and of you in relation to the thing or person, and just show up, it brings more ease and more joy!
Watch this video for tools to show up with ease, joy and glory
Want to dive deeper? Join Marnie on her zoom call, The Avoidance Trap, 29 July 2020.
How many times do you have the point of view that because you said yes to something, you must do it; that you are committed?
There is an alternative space of honoring people and honoring yourself. It's not about, "I'm not going to do it" or "I must do it," it's about asking a question, "What else is possible here?"
Watch this video to use your energy for you rather than against you, by allowing the universe to contribute to you with what could be rather than what you think should be.
When I was 6, I put a lot of energy into trying to not be the anomaly, instead of enjoying being different. I thought there was something wrong with me and that I had to try and figure out the world and blend in. But all that resulted in was me becoming totally depressed.
What if your difference is the most brilliant thing about you? What if you were never wrong? Watch this video to find out more about the brilliance of you as an anomaly.
How much expectation is there for you to get parenting right?
And, how miserable is it when you don't meet that? The to dos and the judgments of parenting are just heaved upon us, and yet, every expectation, definition, label, role, etc. is a limitation.
How much more fun would it be if you gave yourself permission to get it wrong and show up as you? And how much more ease would there be for your kids?
Watch this video for 3 tools to use when you catch yourself judging you, so you can set yourself free.